I’ve been an on and off nomad for a couple of decade and a half now, shifting to Taiwan once I was 21, touring solo by way of Asia at 26, and exploring a lot of the world alone all the best way up till now as a 36 yr previous. The loopy factor is, over that point I went from a bona fide extrovert to an introvert, and the best way that I journey solo has modified consequently.
Although I’m introverted, I’m outgoing. I get pleasure from being social in addition to being alone. To me, introversion pertains to the creator of the time period, Carl Jung’s, definition. Introverts, Jung stated, flip to their very own minds to recharge, whereas extroverts search out different folks for his or her vitality wants.
These are all of the ways in which I get pleasure from touring solo now as an introvert:
1. I choose group journeys however get my very own room
Though I like touring on my own, some journeys should be finished with a bunch except you’re paying 10x for a non-public expertise, like crusing on a liveaboard dive ship or island hopping by way of the Galapagos.
However in every of those eventualities, I get my very own sleeping area.
Since I recharge alone, I like with the ability to have my very own area to retreat to each time I would like it. That made this Galapagos journey good, because the boat I used to be on provided single rooms with out charging a single complement charge.
Not each tour makes it attainable to have my very own area, however I all the time attempt to search out some solitude even on a shared journey.
2. I join day journeys so I’ll meet folks
Once I desire a combine, I have a tendency to remain in solo lodging like a lodge or Airbnb, however I’ll join a day journey in order that I nonetheless get some social interplay.
The hot button is that I join and pay for it forward of time, in order that I’ll really go and meet different folks when the time comes. I can flip right into a hermit with some ease, so I like committing no less than a day earlier than!
I equally love with the ability to come again to my lodging and be alone once I wish to.
4. I go to locations with a standard curiosity
Whether or not it’s scuba diving, climbing, browsing, yoga, or another shared curiosity, in case you go to a spot that’s identified for one in all this stuff, chances are high excellent that you’ll meet different solo vacationers who’re there for a similar function.
I like that this has a built-in community of people that you possibly can simply meet. Even in case you’re the shy sort, having a standard curiosity to bond over makes it simple to have conversations with folks. You’ve already received issues in widespread!
5. I choose journeys the place I’ll be alone
On the opposite aspect of the coin, I usually take wilderness journeys the place I’m unlikely to run into anybody else for a lot of the time. My frequency has elevated over the previous few years, discovering mom nature an ideal companion.
Final summer time I solo camped in Lassen Volcanic Nationwide Park, spent nearly 2 weeks solo truck tenting in Utah, nearly totally in the course of nowhere with out folks round, and I often enterprise out to the desert on my own to stargaze.
I might not have loved journeys like this in my 20s once I was extroverted, as a result of I received my vitality from being round different folks. However now, really get pleasure from solitude. Solo journeys make it simple for me to recharge.
6. Seek the advice of Fb teams
Fb teams are one other nice solution to meet folks, even for a quick meet up, which is often all I would like. I created one for solo feminine vacationers, the BMTM Solo Feminine Traveler Join, which many ladies have used to seek out journey companions over time.
It may be a regional one primarily based on the place you’re going, may be for solo vacationers specifically, or another curiosity group you is likely to be part of. I like to recommend assembly up for a meal, a daytime exercise, or one thing related that has a hard and fast time restrict and happens in public.
Tapping into my community of buddies of buddies has additionally been a good way to satisfy others on the highway.
7. Make a 1:1 good friend
As an introvert, I’m equally comfortable solo or hanging out with somebody whom I get together with effectively. So long as they’re a very good journey companion, I can journey one on one with somebody for days and even weeks with out feeling energetically zapped.
There have been many individuals alongside my solo journey, from sharing a rental automobile in South Africa with Callum to splitting prices and touring with Jen in French Polynesia final fall that each labored out nice for me.
I’ve additionally met two superior ladies firstly of lengthy hikes in Nepal and Peru that I initially meant to do alone, however was comfortable to share. Ending the journey with a climbing buddy, when it’s the fitting particular person, usually makes it even higher.
I meet these folks on the highway, or by way of a mutual good friend, and we journey collectively till it’s naturally time to half methods. Then I get my alone time once more. I like having this selection accessible.
8. Hold alone in a crowded area
Generally, visiting a park, museum, market, or another populated place alone appears like sufficient social interplay for the day. I’d strike up a dialog with somebody, or I may not. However I can nonetheless folks watch and get a way of the native tradition. Generally it’s even nicer this manner, with out anybody else to distract me.
I nonetheless get out and do issues, however there’s no strain to make it right into a social scenario. I’m open minded to whoever I’d meet, nevertheless it’s OK if that doesn’t occur, too.
The perfect factor about solo journey is the potential for serendipity. I like that I may meet somebody at any time at anyplace, however that I may get pleasure from my solitude as effectively. There’s no strain. For this introvert, it’s the most effective of each worlds.